The grief experience can create very powerful emotional reactions. No two people respond exactly the same but there are some symptoms that seem to appear for almost all people recovering from grief. In the first few months, people report feelings of shock and numbness, mental confusion, loss of memory, and a general sense of disorientation. As the months go on, there may be a sharper clarity about the reality of the loss and strong waves of sadness, anger may cause wide mood swings. People who were normally calm and organized prior to the loss, may feel overwhelmed and out of control. Often they will say” Am I going crazy? This is just not me!”
In almost all cases these extreme moods and confusion are normal in response to the disorientation that grieving can produce. If a person is still taking care of themselves by eating, drinking and maintaining some contact with others, they are probably going to pass through this volatile grief stage with relative ease. However, if the person does not seem to be able to function at all for an extended period of time, it would be important for them to see a professional or if necessary go to the emergency room to be evaluated. It is always better to be safe than sorry.
It can be very helpful for people to attend a group that focuses on the loss they have experienced. It can be a great comfort to hear that they are not alone in their reactions and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.